Stop Playing Blame Game

Work Force Management
It is easier to find a scapegoat or blame others, with or without reason, but it requires a lot of courage to own one‘s faults and accept responsibility. We all look for such people but rarely assume that role ourselves.
One of the most destructive human pastimes is playing the blame game. Since we’re all human, mistakes and shortfalls are part of life. Blaming others is a poor strategy and not simply because everyone can see through it. People who are prone to blame are actually reflecting their own insecurities. People assume that their relationships cannot withstand an acknowledgement of a mistake or shortfall.
But it is a false assumption, especially since people appreciate it when someone admits a mistake and asks for forgiveness. Blaming others is usually an indication of the lack of ability to accept and cope with different situations that occur. The person who blames others is usually in the weak position and he tries to gain some power over the situation by blaming other people.
Good leaders own the responsibility and take the blame for anything, even remotely responsible for. This transforms all the negative consequences of blaming others into positive ones. It solidifies relationships, improves credibility, makes him and others happy, reinforces transparency, improves self-esteem, increases learning, and solves problems.
Good leaders have the maturity, patience, and acumen to handle tough situations. Remaining calm and composed allows the brain to think rationally. Good leaders demonstrate the ability and willingness to accept reality and identity the future course of action.
We should recast responsibility as a way to learn from our mistakes as well as those of others. Accepting our fallibility is a route towards self-improvement.
Aiyan Thiruvalluvar says
ஏதிலார் குற்றம்போல் தங்குற்றங் காண்கிற்பின்
தீதுண்டோ மன்னும் உயிர்க்கு. (190)

परछिद्रानवेषण सदृश, यदि देखे निज दोष ।
ति अविनाशी जीव का, क्यों हो दुख से शोष ॥ (१९०)

Explanation by Scholars: 
If they observed their own faults as they observe the faults of others, would any evil happen to men?
பிறர் குற்றத்தைக் காண்பவர்கள் தமது குற்றத்தையும் எண்ணிப் பார்ப்பார்களேயானால் புறங்கூறும் பழக்கமும் போகும். வாழ்க்கையும் நிம்மதியாக அமையும்.

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